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Senses Lifestyle Magazine: Winter 2013 Issue

3 Feb


Greetings Everyone and Welcome Back! We hope that 2013 has presented you with a fresh start and a clear pathway to making this the best year possible for yourself. Senses Lifestyle Magazine offers you this season with our introductory Winter 2013 issue! This year we have dedicated our purpose to providing you our readers with an expansive outlook on how to further define quality in your lifestyle as well as an inside look on some of the best intellectual, creative, and talented entrepreneurs, music artists, and world changers out in the world today. We want you to help us make this vision of success tailor-made to meet your every need! We hope you enjoy this season’s issue.

“Senses Lifestyle…a lifestyle that will give you an excuse to be perfect.”

Joshua Thompson


Khorry Lewis

Director & Publicist

Table of Contents:

Taste: First Date Impressions, The Cocktail Tells All

Touch: Is Being Single The New Norm

Sight: The Fashionista: From Fashion To Functional

Hear: Vinyl Junkie: The Addiction of Vintage Sound

Smell: Top 5 Best Smelling Cigars


Touch: Relationship Status: Single; “The New Normal”

3 Feb

Touch: Relationship Status: Single; “The New Normal”

“I would much rather be single than to keep bad company.”

What do you think when you meet a man or woman who is still single in their 40s, 30s, or 20s? I’m sure your perception of them changes with the age group they are in, right? If they are in their 40s and single, “Something is wrong” or “You’re a loser”; single in their 30s, “What are you waiting for?”, “They must be afraid of commitment”; 20s “You still have time”. The fact is, singles are a growing portion within our population. In 2012 it was determined that 102 million people in the United States were single. Being single today is so celebrated that it even has its own holiday “National Singles Week” (September 16-22). I can only imagine the debauchery going on in Vegas and all other party cities around the country during this time.


I am 24 and single; have been for 2 years now. Not  too long ago, a male friend of mine asked me why I was still single, and instead of the usual answer I always gave when asked that question “Just haven’t met the right person”, I paused and reflected on what may be the real reason I have been single for two years.  While thinking of the reason, I quickly had a mental rendezvous with my past and the men I had come across. I pondered on the many reasons they never worked and the tons of excuses I would come up which always happened to be centered around the answer, “I don’t have time”; it was the simplest excuse that many understood. I had pranced around as though being single was liberating and there was evidence that I was “doing me”, and with every accomplishment that I had made there was yet another reminder that I didn’t have anyone to share it with. Although I claimed to be a woman on a mission, sometimes the pressure from family and friends made me feel as though I was doing something wrong for not being in a relationship or trying to settle down. For women, we want to have it all, a successful career, family, and a social life. The unfortunate part is, it appears you can’t have one without the other ones suffering.

The pressure for women to settle down is greater than that of men. Women who want to have kids have a shorter amount of time with their ability to have kids lessening each year past 30. Therefore, the pressure to settle down hangs like a cloud and creates anxiety like a  ticking time bomb. All the while, our society has begun to develop a culture where the single life and single parent homes are much more common than marriage.

“Most people who are single seem to want to eventually be married,” says Michael Rosenfeld, author of The Age of Independence, about young adults living on their own. “But they’re putting it off. In the past, there just weren’t that many single, young adults supporting themselves. It’s a new phenomenon, post-1960, and getting stronger every day.” (USA Today)

I asked several people about their views on being single and its benefits:

“Being single allows me to focus on my goals; but the downfall is that you don’t have anyone to share your accomplishments with.” (Male respondent)

“Being single allows you to discover yourself and your desires without hurting someone, but you just don’t have anyone to share it with.” (Female respondent)

“ Its only good to be single because you don’t have to answer to anyone and you’re free, yet the bad part is that you spend many nights alone and have no consistent sex.” (Male respondent)

“Being single is bitter sweet, bitterer in my case. I prefer someone to take on the world with someone rather than alone.” (Female respondent)

“If you are bringing baggage from an old relationship into a new one, it is best to stay single. People bring their baggage to a new person expecting them to be ok with it. It’s not fair to the new person you are with.” (Male respondent)

“Being single is everything.” (Male respondent)

I agree that being single is a time for reflection and discovery, however I think that being in a healthy relationship is far more beneficial. That takes me back to answer my friends question about why I’m still single. And to that I can say that I would much rather be single than to keep bad company.

To the reader: What are your views on being single and the future outlook of our society with the growing amount of people choosing to remain single?

Written By: Danielle White

Senses Lifestyle Magazine: December 2012 Issue

4 Dec


Greetings & Happy Holidays!

2012 is almost at a close, and it has been a joy providing you our readers and supporters with the best knowledge we here at Senses Lifestyle have to offer to make your quality of living that much more diverse and meaningful. This month we’ve included a variety of content including a couple of interesting perspectives on Taste and Touch this holiday season. While this time of year is a joyous period of celebration for some it can come with negative connotations and habits. Taelor Cage explores the question of whether our respective indulgences are furthered as alternative methods to avoid stress through Over Indulging or Just Improvising and shows you how to turn those same vices into positive actions. For those men who find themselves in an emotional thicket when it comes down to holiday shopping and keeping your lover, Danielle White delivers her ideas in Holiday Gift Ideas To Keep Her to buying the right gift and attaining an even greater return. Looking for the right sweater or jacket to give your family member who’s closet is full of prior season garments? Take a look at Staying Warm for the Holiday Season for stylish suggestions from Khorry Lewis and it doesn’t hurt to create the perfect 1, 2 gift combination with a new, urban look this Winter! And if you’re looking for a new artist to tune your ears to while you trim your tree, Khorry invites you to take a listen to Daley, The British Heart Throb.  We’ve also chosen emerging fashion brand 2wenty5eight clothing as our Fashion Spotlight this season that will have you wearing the dream that you believe in! Should you be looking for that new, inspirational piece of  literature to launch you into the new year, we recommend viewing our 6th Sense  of Quality interview as Senses Lifestyle sits down with 2012 NAACP Image Award recipient and poet, James B. Golden to talk about his brand new book The Inside Of An Orange.

We hope you have enjoyed this year and wish you all the best that life has to offer in the new year! Be sure to follow us on Twitter @S_LifestyleMag and Subscribe to our site for all new issues in 2013!

“Senses Lifestyle…a lifestyle that will give you an excuse to be perfect.”

Joshua Thompson


Khorry Lewis

Director & Publicist


A Quality Moment With The Editor

TASTE: Over Indulging Or Just Improvising

TOUCH: Holiday Gift Ideas To Keep Her

SIGHT: Staying Warm for the Holiday Season

HEAR: Daley, The British Heart Throb

SMELL: Bleu De Chanel: The Provocative Stocking Stuffer

S_L Recipes: Get In The Game With BlkHrtAffair: Maple Thyme Whiskey Wings

6th Sense Of Quality: James B. Golden

Fashion Spotlight: 2wenty5eight


COVER – Photograph by R.SEE Photography

Edited by Johnathan Moreno

2wenty5eight Clothing

A Quality Moment With The Editor

4 Dec

A Quality Moment With The Editor

Persistence is key to realizing and fulfilling the dream…

Joshua Thompson, S_L Editor-in-ChiefThe year 2012 has been a year of struggle and triumph to say the very least. We have seen the socio-economic structure of our country fluctuate in a myriad of ways, and this has truly shaped the way in which we as Americans relate to one another and view our society as a whole. From indications of potential financial meltdowns, to a heated political race for the presidency, to a surge in mobile technology, it has all weighed in heavily on our perspective on how the modern world is changing. Now that we are on the cusp of transitioning into another unpredictable year the question that is presented is simply, Where do we go from here? It is my personal belief that to answer this inquiry we most reevaluate the vision we have within ourselves and the goals we desire to achieve. To attain positive progression we must adhere to our morals and values that we hold dear to bring change and hope to the generation to come.

Our vision as a people must not be of one of self reliance and gratification, but of collective perseverance and community. When we look at the historic re-election of our Commander in Chief whether you voted for or against him, there can be no denial that the central lesson that this year has brought us is the necessity for unity and persistence.  The “crabs in a barrel” syndrome can be extinguished if we distinguish our purpose to support one another and end it. We cannot give up though our desire for how our circumstances should be does not correlate with our per-conceived agenda. Persistence is key to realizing and fulfilling the dream. Remember to appreciate what you have daily will remind yo that we have been given a purpose to continue to gain our victory. Whatever endeavor it is that we want to achieve can reach its full potential if we continue to believe.

I encourage all to take advantage of the new year to come and to believe that your vision can prosper and not allow “di-vision” to separate you from your hearts desires. Whatever is mentally conceivable IS physically achievable.

Joshua Thompson


TOUCH: Holiday Gift Ideas To Keep Her

4 Dec

TOUCH: Holiday Gift Ideas To Keep Her


Many men feel the pressure of the holiday season to buy a gift for the special lady in their life. Whether you just started dating or have been in a relationship for a while, it can be a stressful occasion deciding what to give. The pressure can be so bad, that some men have even gone so far as to break up with their woman to avoid having to buy a gift.  November to January is rated one of the highest breakup times besides Spring Break, why? Studies suggest that the two primary reasons for a man calling it off around the holidays is because; One: He simply doesn’t see a future with who he’s dating or Two: He can’t afford to buy a gift. Makes sense to me! wWhy spend the holidays with someone’s family, spend your hard earned money, and put up a façade of happiness when all you really want to do is get the hell out of dodge? I think it’s smart to call it off before the holiday season, if you genuinely don’t see a future, why waste your time and theirs.

I’ve been broken up with before right before the holidays, and then the man came crawling back right before the New Years holiday. Did I take him back? I did, no one wants to bring in the New Year alone right? They say you’re supposed to have money in your pocket, and someone to kiss when the clock strikes 12 or you will be broke and lonely for the entire year. So I am going to help you learn how to keep both your relationship and your peace of mind when shopping specifically for your woman!

Fellas if you do see a future with the woman you’re dating, don’t break it off for the sake of not buying a gift, and don’t let the pressure of the holidays stress you out. People get so caught up in feeling obligated to give gifts as a way of showing affection that they lose sight of what is most important. If you can’t afford it or don’t feel comfortable buying expensive gifts so soon, think small and thoughtful. This probably won’t be for the type of woman that’s hard to please, so know your woman first before your proceed. If she is high maintenance, it just may happen that you may be the one getting dumped after Christmas.

Each of these gifts should cost no more than 30 dollars:

  1. Scarf
  2. Candles
  3. Gourmet chocolates from Sees Candies
  4. Framed photograph
  5. Bath and Body Works hand and/or foot cream
  6. A book from her favorite author
  7. Homemade baked sweets
  8. His and Hers ‘Ugly Christmas Sweaters’

All you have to make sure of, is that whatever you buy be sure to put enough thought into the act no matter how expensive a gift could have been it is no match for letting that special someone know you treasure what you have and genuinely thought of them this holiday season.

Happy holidays!

Written By: Danielle White

Edited By: J.Thompson

SENSES Lifestyle Magazine: November 2012 Issue

2 Nov

Ladies & Gentlemen! SENSES Lifestyle Magazine is proud to present for your viewing pleasure another tasteful and engaging edition for the month of November. As we transition into the festive holiday season for Thanksgiving you’ll find in this issue that the familiar sense of TASTE is most certainly the forerunner this month. Take a look at “Pleasant Face With An Amazing Taste, ” our writer Taelor Cage offers insightful and useful information for shoppers looking to accentuate their holiday feasts with wine that is not only appeasing, but economically friendly as well. Just read our spotlight article for the 6th Sense of Quality on BkHrt Affair Catering and their variety of innovative dishes for their ideal Thanksgiving, the pictures alone will make you wish you had a fork and knive next to you. You’ll find not only the theme of culinary delights present in this issue, but our writers have also provided stylish and intellectual food for thought. Danielle White communicates a pathway through “Cuffing Season 101” for the season that produces a myriad of intimate relationships. Khorry Lewis; Senses Lifestyle Director, offers his review on the highly-anticipated album good kid, m.A.A.d city from LA Hip-Hop artist, Kendrick Lamar, so if you’re a K-Dot fan you definitely want to take a look and offer your feedback on this great production. For those of you planning your end of the year vacation plans, our newest addition to the Writing Staff this month, Lanre Akinsiku offers his perspective of the mindset of the everyday traveler in “Passport: Memoirs Of A Traveling Man”. Be sure to view our bonus content featuring the powerhouse clothing line Royal Dynamite, our experience with author of WTF Moment, Bolaji Qudus, and the executive review of the official sponsor of the Gentlemen Republic 3rd Annual Masquerade Ball this October, Courvoisier Gold. This issue not only represents the culmination and relevance of quality taste in food and libations, but the reverence for this special time of year where the rewards of just living and enjoying it mean the most.

– Joshua Thompson, Editor-In-Chief

– Khorry Lewis, Director

“SENSES Lifestyle…a lifestyle that will give you an excuse to be perfect.”


A Quality Moment With The Editor

TASTE: Pleasant Face With An Amazing Taste

TOUCH: Cuffing Season 101

SIGHT: Top 10 Stylish Professional Athletes

HEAR: Kendrick Lamar Album Review: good kid, m.A.A.d city

SMELL: The Power Of The Scented Wax

Tips From A Gentleman: 1st Date Rules

PASSPORT: Memoirs Of A Traveling Man

6th Sense Of Quality: BlkHrt Affair Catering


The 3rd Annual Gentlemen Republic Masquerade Ball Highlights!



TOUCH: Cuffing Season 101

2 Nov

Cuffing Season 101

    The affair that you had over the past 3 months has now come to bitter-sweet end, and the weather is becoming colder, that can only mean one thing, “cuffing season” is amongst us. No, I am not referring to a time of the year when there is an increase in arrests; it’s the time when you hang up your players’ card for the next several months in hopes of finding someone to spend your cold nights with. You may not realize it, or have even heard of the term before, however it is something that actually happens every year around this time. Look around your circle of friends, those who were wildin’ out this summer has found someone to be coupled up with or someone they are “kickin’ it” with. This season is one of the most overlooked out of them all, but it is indeed a season that begins in October and ends in March.

Everybody wants some booty, I mean somebody, and there is nothing wrong with wanting company during the cold season, and quite frankly that is the time that most people tend to get into relationships the most. It can be the start to a long-lasting relationship, or just a fun time with great benefits. No matter what it may turn out to be, it always starts off as being one thing and one thing only: sex. Let’s face it; most people don’t go looking to fall in love as much as they go looking to fall into bed with someone. Yes the cold, accompanied by a warm body and some lovin’ is the perfect recipe for winter; however, there are rules to be followed:


I shouldn’t even have to remind you to be upfront and honest about your intentions, but in case you forgot here it is: If you are not looking to get into a committed relationship and just want someone to hang out with while you still date other people, let that person know what it is. Give them the choice to agree or get the heck out of there!

  1. Avoid Attachment

Keep everything light and don’t get serious. I purpose a 2 night rule; don’t stay over more than 2 nights in a week it will definitely lead to attachment. If you start hanging out every day, staying the night, talking on the phone all the time, and always trying to stay up to date on their every social media post, you need to stop.

  1. Leave the Exes Alone

I know we all have those exes that come creeping back during certain times of the year, if “cuffing season” seems to be that time, keep it moving. You have been there done that and know exactly how that’s going to end.

  1. Bet Smart

You should always practice safe sex, and “cuffing season”  is no excuse to go crazy. So keep it wrapped up!

  1. Have fun

We are in our prime, and there is no better time than now to have fun getting to know someone and not put too much pressure on a situation. Build memories and have fun.

To The Reader: What are your thoughts on “cuffing season” ?

Written By: Danielle White

SENSES Lifestyle Magazine: September/October 2012 Issue

3 Oct

Ladies & Gentlemen! SENSES Lifestyle Magazine is proud to bring you its Fall 2012 Issue! This season has become a period of intellectual, political, and musical change. With that said it’s only proper that we highlight our First Lady; Michelle Obama through TOUCH and the standard of womanhood and power that she has set as the cornerstone for President Barrack Obama during this election year. Has she truly set the tone and redefined what we men look for in a potential helpmate? And for the gentlemen, we have simplified the equation for the stylish sophisticate and taken it back by highlighting vintage clothing through The Fashionista as well as given you a useful guide on making your favorite choice of cologne more than just a designer product but a fragrance that defines you personally through the sense of SMELL.

And seeing as the heat this season will just not subside we’ve doubled-up and provided not only some culinary sexual stimulation through a compiled list of the TOP 10 Aphrodisiacs in TASTE, but Corporate Stimulation vicariously through two beautiful and professional young women; our Exclusive SENSE of the Month Duo featuring models Kamara Brown and Renee Williams.  If you liked last month’s album review, you’ll be eager to check out our Director, Khorry Lewis’ take on Miguel Jontel’s newest project Kaleidoscope Dream for the sense of HEARING. And just because we always like to add a little extra flavor, our newest addition to the writing staff here at Senses Lifestyle; Jason Robinson, provides his wisdom and unique perspective in his debut article Lasting Impressions.

And last but not least, after enjoying a relaxing read of our material be sure to reserve your ticket and join Gentlemen Republic and Senses Lifestyle for an endearing, sophisticated, and dazzling Halloween experience like no other on October 27th, 2012 for our 3rd Annual Masquerade Ball: Unveiling Hidden Truths. You Do Not Want To Miss This!

We Hope You Enjoy!

“Senses Lifestyle…A lifestyle that will give you an excuse to be perfect.”

Joshua Thompson


Khorry Lewis



TASTE: Top 10 Aphrodisiacs

TOUCH: Michelle Obama: A WOMAN Like Her

SIGHT: Instant Vintage; good style is timeless

HEAR: Miguel Jontel: Kaleidoscope Dream Album Review

SMELL: Gucci, Armani, Polo? What’s Your Personal Statement?


SENSE OF THE MONTH: Renee Williams

S_L Spotlight: The Lovely Dona

S_L Lasting Impressions

TOUCH: Michelle Obama: A Woman Like Her

3 Oct

Michelle Obama: A Woman like Her

At this year’s Democratic National Convention, for the re-election of President Obama, one of the primary, and most moving speakers was First Lady; Mrs. Michelle Obama. There is so much elegance in just saying her name, and so much more in her presence. Our First Lady, since her husband’s run for presidency in 2008, has always stood as a strong force in his campaign.  She has represented the Obama family to the highest degree and has won over the hearts of many American families and inspired young women everywhere. As she stepped onto the stage at the DNC, she was received with a roar of applause for   all that  she is and all that she stands for as a mother, woman, wife, and how she represents this great nation.

I have heard from many men over the years, during the Obama’s residence in the White House, how they wish to have a woman like the First Lady. There is no question about it; Michelle Obama is an outstanding woman with great qualities. The question is however, what makes up those qualities in a woman and how she and the President have been able to be such an exemplary model for everyday relationships?

Growing up, Mrs. Obama’s mother was full-time homemaker and her father worked to support the family.  Her family spent much time together and attended church on Sundays. Michelle Obama grew up grounded and knew that hard work was rewarded. Her family was not rich and her father went over and beyond to support his family. Michelle Obama graduated from Princeton University with a Bachelor’s Degree in Sociology and minor in African-American studies in 1985. She later went on to earn her Juris Doctorate (J.D.) degree from Harvard Law School. In 2008, she became an honorary member of the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc..  Michelle, unlike other First Ladies of the past carries a charisma about her that people are drawn to. It is easy to say that she most certainly makes the POTUS look good. She has always been proactive in the community, a support system for her daughters and husband, all while looking great!

Barack and Michelle Obama met at Sidley Austin law firm where she was assigned as his mentor. Their relationship began professionally and ended personally. Although we are merely looking at their relationship from the outside, what we can see from this example is a woman supporting without reservation. Having had a full-time career prior to her husband’s campaign for presidency, once President Obama had been elected as a presidential candidate she reduced her professional responsibilities by 80 percent to support his campaign. Where Obama could not be, she was there on his behalf; when he needed her, she was there having his back.

The key to finding someone who compliments you is not about finding someone who’s already at the top of their game, it’s about taking the journey with one another and finding out what works and what doesn’t.  What draws many people into the Obama’s relationship is that you can visually see the love they have for one another. They way the President looks into his wife’s eyes and the way Michelle looks back with admiration. It all looks great doesn’t it? Clearly we can see that this type of relationship is not out of reach.  I always say I want someone whose ambition is matched with mines or greater, that way they will push me to higher levels of expectation and achievement.

   You don’t want to have to encourage someone to go out and do something positive for themselves, trust me it’s too much work! Also, finding someone who supports you, but can keep it real about their level of comfort and even on your worst days still sees the potential in you and pushes you beyond your mental limitations is the ideal partner. In essence, having that “Michelle Obama” female to hold you down is really having someone to support, love, and uplift you. And for the gentlemen out there exemplifying the “Barrack” aesthetic is not only being charming, kind, but extremely ambitious, and what woman wouldn’t love that?!

Take a moment to reflect. Can you name a couple that you look up to and wish to share their similar ideals in your relationship? If so, Why?

What if any are those qualities, and how can you build on those with your significant other?

Written By: Danielle White

TOUCH: Cheating Is Natural – Women Can Do It Too

31 Aug

Touch: Cheating Is Natural- Women Can Do It Too

The current events surrounding Football Superstar Chad Johnson and his Reality Star wife Evelyn Lozada Johnson domestic dispute and infidelity has moved me to write this month’s article. I felt that it was only appropriate that I discuss some of the prevalent issues that seem to continuously occur within relationships: mainly cheating.  For reality television it makes for great entertainment, however, in real life the effects of cheating can yield traumatic effects on those being cheated on, and in some cases even the cheater must pay the consequences.  Although there is a bigger issue here with this couple regarding domestic violence, and I in no way condone abuse of any kind, I will save my views about that situation for a later time.

It has been argued for centuries that males are not built to be monogamous. During evolution the main importance of mating was to reproduce, so it was common for a man to have more than one wife or multiple mistresses to bear his children while the women remained faithful to their man. As our society has developed over the years, women have become more independent and are no longer muted by society standards set in place by men.  Although, some countries and religions still operate within the institution of polygamy to this day, American culture is still fighting the nature of the beast. Our societal roles between men and women are changing, when women once use to be stay at home moms, women are now waiting until later in life to have children and focusing more on their careers. There is no doubt about it that roles are being flipped and cheating in relationships is becoming more prevalent; thus women and cheating are on the climb.

 “19 percent of women and 23 percent of men reported cheating, statistics that seem to reflect a closing of the cheating gender gap. Research from the 1990s found that only about 10 percent to 15 percent of women reported being unfaithful”. Equal Opportunity Cheating: Women and Men Cheat at Same Rate

The fact is, yes men cheat more; however men and women cheat for two separate reasons. Men tend to cheat because they are not married, too many options, the need from something “strange”, utilizing sex as a stress reliever, and finally an exit out of the relationship. When it comes to women however, cheating tends to occurs for these reasons:

Emotional reasons

Women tend to have an emotional connection with the person they cheat with and are more likely to cheat because of loneliness. If there is any disconnect within a relationship and the women feels obligated to remain in it, she may go looking to feel the void elsewhere.

Personal Gain

Just as it was in a man’s nature to have multiple wives to bear his children, female affairs may have evolutionary roots as well. Women, while looking for food would sleep with other men, creating an insurance policy in the process — to have someone who would help rear their children and provide resources should her mate die. Today it is no different, women who are materialistic may also look to a man who can provide that for her and in many cases chase after a man that is in a relationship in hopes of gaining materially, does “gold-digger” ring a bell?


Women need to feel desired by the man that they are with, and we long to be praised for how beautiful we are. When a man neglects to make his woman feel special, she may look for that attention wherever it’s being given. Woman want to feel that emotional connection with their partner, and that includes spending time with each other outside of sex, overall intimacy is what we long for.

Accidental or On Purpose

Women are also less likely than men to cheat with an excuse of “it just happened” because they tend to think longer and harder about the situation. Not saying that women purposefully want to cheat, however, we are aware of where our actions may take us if we spend too much alone time with another man.

So where does that leave us? Men and women cheat, but for different reasons, and understanding those reasons can help you prevent it. If you are in a relationship, be in the relationship 100 percent. Be attentive to the needs of your partner and  nurture your relationship with intimacy. There’s a saying “A Happy wife makes for a Happy life”, keep that in mind!

Do you think that our society needs to adjust its views on infidelity and accept it as human nature both?

Written By:

Danielle White